Love Each Other, For Your Child's Sake

Abhay, Aditya and Neha are agemates who go to the same school. Where Aditya is an outspoken, confident and cheerful child, Neha is a little shy and quiet girl. On the other hand, Abhay though very active gets irritated and agitated very soon. Is it by nature that children are so different from each other? Let's see what has happened a night before at their homes.

Neha notices a serious conversation going on between her father and mother. Although she is busy dressing up her barbie doll, she can't ignore the tense look on her parents' faces. After sometime, her mother forces a smile, kisses her and goes to bed. Neha has too often sensed this stiffness in the air.

There is a more vocal scene going on at Abhay's house. Her father screams at his mother who in turn sobs and complains. Abhay has witnessed such a scene before as well.

And Aditya has just finished having his dinner with his parents amidst a warm chat and giggles and looks forward to play monopoly with the two. He has always seen his parents happy together for they have never sorted out problems in front of him.

It's no coincidence that Aditya is a happier child than Abhay and Neha.

A child forms his opinions and beliefs by observing the relationship between the two people who have given him life i.e. his parents. This relationship is the mirror in which child sees what life is all about. No other realities or possibilities exist for him because this is the first and closest relationship he grows up looking at. Thus, his personality also takes the shape accordingly.

Children who grow up in a happy atmosphere develop happy cheerful personalities and have a positive attitude towards life. And children who often have to go through the trauma of quarrels or experience tensions between parents, suffer from low self-esteem and lack confidence.

Parents are a child's whole world. This world is shaken and is filled with insecurity when children observe tensions between parents. This way, children also lose faith and respect for parents. They stop believing in relationships and are apprehensive to enter long term relationships. It's not their fault if they don't believe in the power of love, they never saw one. They may even become violent or aggressive or withdraw themselves completely resulting in a shy, quiet child who doesn't feel like or is afraid to express. Children may also become fearful and usually feel shameful of the situation at home.

Such is the huge cost a child pays for the strained relationship between parents. And this does irreparable damage to his psyche. No amount of love or visits to psychologists later on can then erase the scars on the delicate mind of a child.

Nothing works like the power of love. And nothing can fill in the void of love. And if there is love, dearth of material things is also compensated. You should understand that this need for love in a child's life cannot be fulfilled by merely loving the child. You, being his idols, should set an example before him through your relationship.

So, resolve your misunderstandings in private. Don't cling on to them. Talk out your differences. They are too small in front of your child's happiness which is what you want at the end of the day.

They say the best gift a father can give to his child is love his mother. And the best gift parents can give their child is love each other so that his life is full of happiness, and he nurses the desire and the hope to find love in life.

About the Author

Mother’s Pride is headed by the renowned educationist and sought after parenting expert Mrs. Sudha Gupta..Her vision encompasses not only children but parents, teachers and the society on the whole.

As an educationist, she has single-handedly revolutionized pre-school education. Her thoughts have inspired parents and teachers to look at early childhood education from a new perspective. Her emphasis on overall development of child and not just academics has opened new window for tiny tots to blossom into extraordinary beings. Now this visionary has set her eyes to transform formal education system through Presidium, a proposed senior secondary school.

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